Be Honest: Is your home more peaceful now than when the school year began?
Most days mine is. Then there are those days…
I find that the more I have pre-thought the day, then better it runs.
The days that I invite the boys to the table and begin fumbling around for what “schoolwork” I want them to begin are chaotic and counter-productive.
What works best for me in regard to nurturing a peaceful home?
I really need to have my heart right before I try to coach, train, teach, encourage, rebuke, or correct anyone else. It doesn’t seem to matter for my sanity whether I get this quiet time in the morning or in the evening. As long as I have spent time with my Lord, read His word, Prayed, Worshipped, or sat silently before Him… I’m good. And when mommy’s good, it makes life a whole lot betta!
A Purpose for everyone.
Everyone in the home needs to have a purpose each and every day. They need to know they have done their best and added value to their lives when they fall asleep at night. The younger kids need time to play. We all need to conquer something: learning, cleaning, growing, or exercising.
A Learning Plan.
Even a loose learning plan is better than no learning plan. The kids do not necessarily need a stack of worksheets to complete, but they do need some sort of learning direction. Whether you are an unschooler or a classical educator we need to make sure we live each day purposefully. Spontaneous discovery is beautiful. So is knowing the answer to if I work 5 hours and my mom pays me $9.47 and hour how much more will I have to earn to pay for my day at Disneyland in July with out smoke billowing out your ears.
I am the queen of distractibility. It is becoming increasingly difficult for me to focus, I mean really focus on one thing at a time. I am purposing to give whatever I am doing, or whoever I am talking to my full undivided attention. UGH. I fail miserably, but I begin again each day (or minute). I owe it to my God, my husband, and my children to give them my best. Notice the order?
I do not need help doing it the other way: children, hubby, God. That’s my default.
My husband works really hard every day and trusts me to plan and execute the “education” of our children. I find it easy to become absorbed in this effort and to neglect him altogether. It’s exhausting to be “on call” to teach, train, and mold our boys, right? Yup. I talk myself into that truth all the time. Truth is, without my wonderful husband we are not a family. Nothing works without him. He is my best friend, my love, and my partner for life. Yet, all too often he gets my leftovers. With 5 boys and a dog, there is nothing left over. That means unless I purpose to focus on him and make time for his needs and wants, they never get met and he starves in our home. One of my biggest priorities is to keep our marriage in balance. Without God, it’s not possible. With God, I struggle because I get in the way. But I still focus and try.
There are too many of us for all the household, cooking, cleaning, and teaching to all fall on my shoulders. I am Not. All. That. I need help. Shoot, the boys need to feel like they are part of a team. In our home, that means pulling your weight. We do chores. We have rules. We have them laminated and posted on the fridge for weekly review. We all feel better when the house is clean and we know what is expected of us, don’t we?
Want the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding? I DO! I read and apply Philippians 4:6-7 backward…
Here’s the verse:
Here it is my way:
Do I want Jesus to guard my heart and mind? DO I want God’s peace? Then present everything I would request to God, being thankful. Be prayerful in every situation and turn every anxious thought over to Him…